Since the concept of “adolescence” entered modern society in the early 1900s that stage of maturation has grown longer and longer. And, for many men today, adolescence seems to be almost an end in itself. What has happend to modern manhood?
A selection entitled “Where Have The Good Men Gone?” from Kay S. Hymowitz’s upcoming book “Manning Up: How the Rise of Women Has Turned Men Into Boys” as published in the Wall Street Journal this weekend blames societal restructuring for the demise of men:
What explains this puerile shallowness? I see it as an expression of our cultural uncertainty about the social role of men. It’s been an almost universal rule of civilization that girls became women simply by reaching physical maturity, but boys had to pass a test. They needed to demonstrate courage, physical prowess or mastery of the necessary skills. The goal was to prove their competence as protectors and providers. Today, however, with women moving ahead in our advanced economy, husbands and fathers are now optional, and the qualities of character men once needed to play their roles—fortitude, stoicism, courage, fidelity—are obsolete, even a little embarrassing.
Why embarrassing? Is this type of male leadership archaic and therefore undesirable?
Even if women today can be more capable and more successful than men, that is not a reason to push men out of the picture, for unpopular as it may seem God has designed society with men as the leaders. Women are not in any way inferior but serve a different role of support and encouragement. Although initially this idea may seem outrageous, give it a try. I used to be upset at this “subordination” as well, until I realized how beautiful humility is. Following God’s ways always lead to unexpectedly pleasant results.